When it comes to mental wellness, people often suffer in silence.
As a trans identified person who has struggled with depression, anxiety and self image, I know from experience that breaking the silence and finding the right person to talk to can be freeing. Therapy helped me to come to terms with my identity, manage my depression, and navigate transitioning, which allowed me to come out to my family. I realized that even though things are not exactly how I want them to be, I’m okay, I am resilient, I have support, and I have someone to talk to.
I have been working with and advocating for the queer and trans community since 2012. My work has spanned three provinces and continues to expand and grow in Toronto as I manage a binder (chest binder) recycling program called BindersOUT.
I have a particular interest in working with queer and trans-identified people as well as the parents or partners of queer and trans individuals.
For Queer and Trans Folxs:
Trying to understand ourselves and cope with conflicting feelings can be challenging, especially when we also have to battle the world around us just to be respected. As a gray-ace, demisexual, trans identified person I know what it’s like to struggle with dating, family, to feel alone, to question my identity, and to feel lost in a community that is supposed to support us. I can support you through: coming out, transitioning, body image, family, work/school, dating, questioning your identity, gender identity, gender expression, sexual identity, and just life challenges in general. We are more than just our queer and/or trans identity, and not everything is because we are queer and/or trans.
Having your child come out to you can be frightening, a whole new world has opened up for them, but at the same time you’re not sure how best to support them. Common questions or concerns may be:
How do I talk to my child about their name and pronouns?
How will this affect my child’s mental health? How do I talk to my child about their changing body when my child doesn’t like the body they have?
My child is having trouble at school, how can I advocate for them?
My partner doesn’t accept or acknowledge our child’s identity, preferred name, pronouns.
I can help you navigate these situations by giving you the language and tools to talk to your children. If you are concerned and unsure of what to do talking to someone may help you and therefore also help your child.
The people we love mean everything to us, but what happens when they reveal something that makes us start to question not only the relationship but our identity? What happens now? How do I have a conversation with them about how their identity is affecting me without them getting defensive? How does my partner’s identity change our relationship? I want to understand, but I don’t know what questions to ask. I feel conflicted and unsure of where to start.
Through our sessions together I will support you to answer some of the above questions. It is okay to be angry, sad, afraid, all emotions are valid. Together we will work to uncover the thoughts behind the emotions and come to a better understanding of why you may be feeling the way you do, and thus better able to communicate those thoughts and feelings to your partner.
My Approach to Therapy:
In my approach to therapy I create a warm and welcoming space free from judgment. I will work collaboratively with you to uncover your strengths, build resilience, and broaden your understanding of self and others. During our time together you will be treated with dignity and respect, and all aspects of your personhood will be honoured.
I use an integrative approach to counselling pulling from various methods including relational, strength-based and solution focused approaches as well as talk therapy, CBT and mindfulness.
I understand the importance of accessing a safe and trans-inclusive space. The Healing Collective has a non-gendered washroom on site and staff have undergone anti-oppressive trans competency training. At the Healing Collective you will be referred to with your preferred name and pronoun(s), and if your name and pronouns change we will change with you.
Areas of Focus:
Parents/partners of 2SILGBTQ individuals
Gender identity/ expression
School/ work challenges
Coaching and life skills
Self care/ depletion/ burnout
Fee: $125 for 1 hour session
Sliding scale available for those who cannot afford market rates.
You can reach me by phone at 647-517-4012